Archive | November 2014

Hullabaloo Over Rape By Deception

Ok everyone CALM DOWN.   Somehow the law that I had been working on with my local Assemblyman Troy Singleton got leaked out to the media and then it spread like wildfire across the internet but very few of those news sources actually came to me or Troy Singleton for a comment or information about a back story.  Someone only minimally involved made some comments but it really did the law NO BENEFIT and it’s in danger of being lost in a committee if any even picks it up thus losing it before it even takes off.  Things are done in certain orders in certain ways for a reason.  We wanted to get a little further in this process before going really public with it and because of the “well-meaning” intentions of a few people (or a group who just want to see this buried away), it’s done a great disservice.

I went to some websites that carried the “news” (I refuse to plug them here) I read some of the comments and carried out some banter with some of the people who were making comments to the various articles.  In a local Trenton paper, in the morning there were 46 comments and by the afternoon there was over 400.  I had to work Monday night so I only participated for a couple of hours, but I wrote to some of the writers of the articles and told them the back story and some of them then had a better idea of what the law was about.

Going to the comments, some of the most scathing comments were of course made by men and were mainly about 2 things;   looks and wealth.   They would say that women who wear push up bras, have breast implants, wear make up, have extensions/weaves or wear wigs should be subject to prosecution or that it’s a “gold diggers law” meaning a woman thinks she’s getting a man with  money and really he’s living in mommy’s basement.   Ok people, that is NOT what the law is about.  What in the hell happened to our morality in this world?  Since when is it ok to lie to people to sleep with them?  It’s not about LOOKS you self-centered, materialistic people.  It’s about getting involved into a relationship, and wholly deceiving the other person.  Not a one night stand kind of thing, but where either a man or woman believes that they have entered into a rewarding, fulfilling relationship and find out that their partner is a complete farce – kind of like in my case with William Jordan and his 10,000 aliases.  In my case I spent over a year of my life with a man where nothing he told me was true.  We were planning a future, a wedding, a child, moving in together and my life was completely turned upside down by the Mount Everest pile of lies.  The ONLY thing real about him was his appearance.  I gave my affirmative permission to Liam Allen, not William Allen Jordan.   I gave permission of my body to the man I thought I would be spending my future with, not the con artist, pedophile, bigamist that I found out he was.

Some people commented that I had to have been incredibly stupid and “buyer beware”.  Um, I did my research – repeatedly.  Phone numbers, addresses, email addresses, versions of the email, the name I had, any inkling of information that I had – I researched it all the time, but only ever had pieces of a convoluted puzzle. it wasn’t until I had his REAL name that the puzzle pieces fit together to make the whole picture.  He was so good and cunning at his lies, had plausible excuses for anything and everything.  I’m not some desperate whore who just sleep with anyone and everyone.  Get real, people.  I am not out to have every white lie telling person arrested for rape by deception, but there certainly needs to be a law out there that helps people who ended up in situations like mine – extreme situations.   Troy Singleton and I are still tweaking the bill to get it just right, but it certainly didn’t deserve the ignorant response that was garnered.  I would have expected a more liberal state like New Jersey to have had a better response.   It’s shocking that more conservative states like Tennessee and Alabama can pass such laws, but NJ has a problem with it?  It is because NJ is wrought with people who are just serial liars?  Who the hell knows, but the backlash was absolutely unnecessary.  One of the few people who actually came to me, was the associated press and the following article was published in San Francisco..

In addition NO WHERE is this law meant to take away, demean or diminish what victims of violent sexual assault/rape have experienced.  This law is not meant to even align itself like it – it’s just terminology.  I suffered (and still do) suffer nightmares, have trust issues and still experience paranoid on a fairly regular basis.  I feel like i was raped repeatedly over the course of 14 months instead of one violent experience and I cannot get my sexual sanctity back from that man who did this to me knowing damn well what he was doing and who he was as well as what he was portraying himself to be.

If ANYONE has any questions or concerns about this law, I am not a hidden person.  I can be found on various social medias and also through this blog.  There is a contact me form, use it.

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Deal or No Deal???

Ok, so as of my last post, we hadn’t reached a resolution on the case of William Allen Jordan aka: Will Jordan, Gee Allen, Guillaume Allen, Gee Jones-Jordan, Bill Jordan, William Jordon, Liam Allen, William Jones and probably others that I’m either forgetting or just am not aware of.  Needless to say it’s variations on a theme.  So apparently either he nor his attorney did NOT appreciate my public awareness of this case (whatever) but out of courtesy I did not post as frequently as I used to because frankly I just didn’t want to piss someone off who could do me a favor before this is all said and done, i.e. his attorney and my prosecutor.  Now at the first status conference with the prosecutor on my case, he said we would give this a 3 strikes and we’re out frame of mind:  basically offer him 3 chances at a plea deal an if he doesn’t take it, screw it, we go to trial and our case is super strong between my emails, text messages (from both Jordan himself and “Tom/Marcus” from the UK from a Washington DC phone number), and then video footage that I secretly shot while wired with hidden cameras in the 2 months that it took me to build my case to the point that they had enough burden of proof to issue an arrest warrant.  New Jersey is a one party consent state meaning as long as one party consents (me) and you are being recorded (him), you don’t need the other party’s permission to record them and use it against them.   He is lucky I haven’t posted my hours and hours of footage on YouTube, but trust me, his exes have seen some of the footage.

I know, you want to know.  Did he take the plea deal this past Monday?   Well……

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YES!!!!   Yes he pled guilty and took the plea deal of 3 years in state prison, restitution of a minimum of $4383, a lifetime no contact to me and my kids and he was slammed with a $15,000 fine!   WIN!!!!    At first the prosecutor said that there was not going to be a resolution that day and I reminded him about his 3 strikes rule.  He said he didn’t recall saying that, but he is at a variety of cases on a weekly/daily basis and mine only came along once a month, so it’s easy for him to forget, but for me this is my ONLY case and I didn’t forget such a thing.  He apparently thought about it and went back to Jordan’s attorney and said that nothing will change in a month – just the fact the deal is off the table and why don’t we just get it done and over with.  Pressed with this info, he accepted the deal!  I really didn’t know if he would drag it out knowing that trial dates would be not coming until a minimum of April, then the trial and then sentencing could linger another 6-8 months, so it would have given him more time out of jail now, but he would be facing 5 years in jail as opposed to the 3 we were offering him.  Unfortunately, without revoking his bail, I couldn’t get him remanded to jail immediately and sentencing was set up for February 6th which I was told he would be sentenced and taken away immediately to jail.   Yes!!!  He had to admit everything that he had done to me.  He had to state his real name, his real age and admit that he did defraud me and take my money by impersonating a government official from the United Kingdom.  Seriously, to hear him admit that to a courtroom full of witnesses, on the record with my mom by my side crying for me to also hear him admit his crimes:  it was priceless.   I will never forget that moment and wish it was video recorded so that I could hear it again and again and again.  He admitted it.  I have been on cloud 9 ever since.

The only downside is that there have been 2 victims since he got out of jail on August 29th.  One of which he met at a bowling alley that his dad bowls on a league with and having known the father, she figured he was an upstanding guy himself.  It wasn’t until the last article on the front page of a local newspaper that her friend tipped her off to the truth and she used Google to find everything she could about him and it led her to me.  I have met her and she is absolutely lovely.  Just a wonderful person who got sucked into his world of lies, of which his father never corrected – even down to him saying he was sent to the UK to live with distant relatives as a child due to an abusive mother.  She of course dumped him the next day and hasn’t heard from him ever since.  Then there was another young girl out of the state of New Jersey who said she met him on eharmony 3 years ago and started a physical relationship with him this year:  basically after I found out about his ass and he probably knew that the thing with me was going nowhere, so on to plan B.  Unless he was setting her up as his escape clause but got arrested before he could fulfill his full plan.  He got out of jail and resumed contact with her and has the poor girl believing his mom died and he is inheriting $100,000 of which he is setting aside a trust for her and her young daughter.  I am so sorry honey, but there is NO money.  First of all, his mother isn’t dead.   I got confirmation of this from an extended family member.  Secondly, She has EXTENSIVE medical bills.  I have seen them with my own eyes and have them on my video footage.  If she died all bills would have to be paid first, the house would probably be paid off (which they have only owned for 10 years and God knows if they have remortgaged the house at any point).  As of now the house is worth about $60,000 less than what was paid for it.  Then Jordan has 2 sisters, so whatever was leftoever would have to be split 4 ways (his dad, him and his 2 sisters) and she may have a will that leaves everything to her husband.  She isn’t dead, so there is no worry.  Do you know how many time his mom has been “gravely ill”, “hospitalized” and other horrible things?   Many, many, many times.  He told me she was in the hospital and then there was a receipt in my car for Burlington Coat Factory the week before he was arrested buying little boy’s Nike sneakers.  Probably with my money.  He probably paid your bills with MY hard earned money and that pisses me off.  Whatever money he has given you since he got out of jail was probably at the expense of another woman.  I wholly intend on giving the ring back if I find out that some other poor woman was scammed out of a large amount of money at once because frankly, I couldn’t keep it.  It’s like blood money.  I didn’t earn it and neither did he – not by respectable means.  He is working at a department store.  He isn’t a nurse.   Do you know where he got that?  His victim from 4 years ago – she was a pediatric nurse.  He tends to emulate whatever he has at the moment and be a chameleon to adapt to whatever the woman needs/wants.  He has no drivers license, so why do you think he took a bus to go see you?  Because he has no car.  I’m a nurse and I make about $35 an hour.  Don’t you think a man living with his parents could afford a car?  He is probably stealing the identiy of you or your child and you are too blind to see it.  Unless you wake up, you are going to learn a very hard and very expensive lesson because he will take you for all that you’ve got or he is using you for your remote location to try to flee to and he will try to get you pregnant which will bind you to him forever and he will leave.   Whatever he is spouting, it’s all lies.  He is incapable of telling the truth because he is a psychopath/sociopath who has been doing this for over 30 years.  People keep telling me you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.   Well you have all of the information to ditch this loser and once it’s on Dateline (still waiting for an air date and they were at court this past Monday), then the whole country will know.

Moving on, the rape by deception law that I helped to craft goes to the New Jersey Assembly tomorrow, November 13th!   I have seen the draft that is being introduced and I love it.  I will have more information on that as it comes along.  You do NOT have to be a victim and one person CAN make a difference.  FInd your power ladies and gentlemen and get out of an abusive and unfulfilling relationship.  Happiness is out there.  I have finally opened myself up to dating again and it’s been amazing.  I am happy with myself, my family and my life – at last.

Here are some articles published this week:

LoveFraud.com article

Burlington County Times (which made the front page – photo below)

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