Yes, it’s been quite a long time since my last post and so much has happened since then. I needed to take the holidays and just be with my kids and it was a really rought time for me emotionally. The really horrible backlash about my Sex by Fraud bill was jarring and trying to defend something that the general media had no clue about, the history about it and where it was coming from but to just judge it based on their own uneducated opinions was really hard for me to deal with. I was being harassed and stalked by someone who I first thought to be an ally and was trying to see a new victim in the northeast US through as she originally was believing the lies that William Jordan (Gui Jordan to her) was telling her. With all of the news coverage, articles, documentaries on this man, I just couldn’t fathom someone being SO manipulated, so fooled by him as to believe him and his lies over the truths of his victims. She finally saw the light and he became desperate after that, stalking her to where she needed to file a restraining order against him right before Christmas. She was his one chance to escape this conviction as he wanted to take on HER last name and ditch his own. What man does that? Oh yeah, someone who wants to not have the notoriety that he has as me and his other victims are exposing his aliases as we find them. Sentencing is coming up in just a couple of weeks and then he is is the problem of the New Jersey penal system and us victims can finally have some peace knowing he is off the streets (yet again) and not harming anyone. It’s state prison, and not county prison, so he’s not going to get away with whatever shenanigans he got away with in county lock up.
I am SOOOOOOOO close to getting him listed on Megan’s Law. I have a fabulous ally in his ex-wife, Mary Turner Thomson who is doing as much as she can on her side to get the information to Camden County and the US Marshals Department to get his conviction transferred here so that he can stop preying on women with children or any woman who has anything to do with children. He is nothing more than a master manipulator and uses the kids as pawns, but he did molest a girl under the age of 13 for years, manipulating and brainwashing her. He is just a deplorable human being and the 3 years that he is being sentenced to is not even a drop in the bucket of what he actually deserves to what he has done to women and children over the decades. I just have to hope that this gives inspiration to his future victims or any of his victims in the last 4 years (because that’s what New Jersey’s statute of limitations is) to have the courage to press their own charges against him. Together we can just keep adding charges, keep him in jail as much as we can and keep future victims from happening. I certainly did’t beliee one person can make a difference, but really. Just one person.
As for the Sex by Fraud Law, we’re waiting for a committee date. It’s been assigned to a committe and we were wating for the new legislative calendar to get a meeting. Additionally, new legislators will be sworn in soon, so we may wait for after that. It’s not a short process but I’m committed to seeing it through and have lots of support locally, across the country and even internationally. I absolutely appreciate the emails, facebook messages, private messages that I get from people telling me their stories, thanking me for coming forward and has even inspired some people to get out of their own manipulative relationships.
Got a message from the Dateline producers that we may have an air date in the very near future. Sentencing is coming as well. Coincidence? 😉 When I have an absolutely confirmation on a date, of course I’m going to shout it from the rooftops because this has been in the can a few months although they’ve been keeping in touch with me with every development along the way and I apprecaite them taking an active interest in this story and wanting to get it out there.
I will confess that the last 3 months I was a bit despondant and in a funk. I was remembering what was going on at the holidays last year. When Will Jordan (aka Liam Allen) was spending his “First American Thanskgiving” with my family, when he failed to show up on Christmas Day, when he showed up during the day of New Year’s Eve but then failed to come back. It’s been almost a year now since I found out I was pregnant. I know that grief is a whole year’s cycle. I’m a nurse and I have told this to my patients, their families and I know it myself. February 18th is the day I found out the truth about who I was engaged to. It was this time last year that we set a wedding date. February 26th is the date I chose to terminate my pregnancy because I just couldn’t be tied to that man forever. My due date has come and gone, the wedding date has come and gone. March is where I started to build my case and April is where he finally got arrested. I think once I get past sentencing, when he is in jail and away from me I will be ok. At least start to be ok.
I finally started to get out there and start dating again as of the last 2 months or so. I’m ready. I’m ready to move on and find love again. FInd a companion. 2015 is going to be a metamorphasis year for me. New car, new house, just start everything new and fresh. Kick off the memories of my old marriage, the memories of Liam Allen and get rid of all those ghosts. I’ve been busting my butt to get myself to a place that I can make all of that happen. I want to get back to regular yoga sessions. Find my center, breathe, be in the moment and let things go. Pure serenity I don’t make resolutions but I am promising myself, my subscribers, my random readers to keep updating. I’m also promising myself to get my book done by the end of this year. I’ve got a publisher lined up who has read what I’ve got already and my outline and they keep supporting me in getting it done. Yeah, I wanted to go back to school and advance my degree because it seems like all of my co-workers are doing it, but there’s time for that. I need to strike on this book while the iron is hot, so to speak.
Until next time…..