October 18th just passed. That was the date that William Jordan and I had chosen back in January 2014 to pick as our wedding date. My vacation time has to be put in the first week of January of each year, so he said either October 18th or the 25th. I chose to put my time in carefully that would encompass BOTH weekends and this would give us a few more weeks to narrow it down. Having been married before and knowing that 9-10 months to throw a wedding together would be tough and that a venue had to be book ASAP and so we settled on the 18th. I know that in October, the weather in New Jersey can be fickle. It can be really warm in the 80’s or it can be really chilly in the 40’s and rain can be prevalent. One of the things he had requested was an outdoor wedding. He said his guest list would be less than 30 people, so we decided on no more than 75 total for the guest list, keep it fairly small an intimate. By the end of January we had almost totally decided on the Valenzano Winery in South Jersey which was beautiful, picturesque and perfect for what we both envisioned. A close second was The Bradford Estate. I was about to put out feelers for pricing as well as catering options when I found out the truth about Jordan and my whole world came crashing in on me. I know the Kubler-Ross stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. DABDA as we coined it in nursing school. I also am well aware that a person truly needs a full calendar year of firsts to really start to heal. I knew I needed to get through his arrest, the trial, the passing of all holidays as a new and changed woman, pass what would have been my due date, pass the wedding date, all of the winter holidays and then the 1 year mark. However, I am not sure what 1 year mark to consider the 1 year as everything is STILL evolving as I write this. One year from when I found the ID in January? One year from when I finally googled it in February? One year from when he got arrested in April? I truly don’t know. I DO know that I can’t wait to have this year of hell, really 2 years of hell if you count the end of my marriage, the hellish year with him and this year with all of the legal and court battles that I am still facing. I guess I will figure out as the time comes. I am trying to make this year a much better year than last year. Took my daughter to a One Direction concert in August after Jordan promised to take her TWICE last year and then failed to follow through. I am doing all of the fun holiday things with them that he was a part of last year or didn’t bother to show up to. I passed the back to school night that Jordan wanted to attend but it caused drama outside of the school with my ex and thus Jordan left rather than a scene be made. He probably left because he was afraid that someone would call the police and his jig would be up because he would have to tell the police his REAL name. I need to pass Thanksgiving where he came last year touting it as his first American Thanksgiving. It was all BULL SHIT! It really pisses me off the way he conned my whole family into embracing him into our lives, my children’s lives. The Christmas morning and New Year’s Eve that he didn’t show up to last year and this year those are my holiday’s to work. Oh the woe of being a nurse. Hospitals are a 24/7/265 business and we are the loyal workers who give up time with our families to take care of yours. It doesn’t make it any less easier, but we try to make it a good time at work and celebrate with each other, but I digress.
What did I do on October 18th? Well I worked the night of the 17th into the 18th and it was a very S-L-O-W night at work, which I was thankful for and hated all at the same time. I wanted to be busy, keep my mind off of things, keep myself busy and productive. On the other hand, it has been really busy at work and I was appreciative of a break like that because it doesn’t happen all that often and we cannot shun a gift bestowed to us by fate. After a couple of hours of sleep, I renewed my season passes to Six Flags Great Adventure with the kids and had fun with Fright Fest. We stayed out later than expected knowing that my daughter had a field hockey game the next morning. Everyone overslept the next day but we still managed to get everyone up, dressed, ready, fed and at the field only 10 minutes late for practice. Seriously, a parenting win! I didn’t wallow in what didn’t happen because frankly, I am SO THANKFUL! I did NOT marry that psychopath/sociopath. I didn’t end up losing every last dime that I ever had, because undoubtedly I would have, to a man whose sole goal in life is to con, cheat, defile and degrade women without their permission or knowledge. Women ARE his paycheck. Conning IS his job. He can’t help himself nor does he care to. He could give 2 shits about the women he hurt in the past, the children he created and the children that were already in existence of the women he conned as the majority of women were single moms. He doesn’t care and it’s the hallmark of a sociopath. Lack of remorse. He isn’t sorry for what he did. I’m sure he’s very sorry he got caught and that would make him up his game the next time…….
This means a segue of course…..
So in the last couple of weeks, after my last court date, a new victim came forward. She contacted both Mary and myself after a friend tipped her off to who she was REALLY dating. I was approached by a reporter after the last court date who has covered EVERY court date that we have had the last few months and thus an article with a photo ran on the front page of the Burlington County TImes the next day. This friend saw this article and told her friend who was expectantly shocked as we all were. She knew a family member of his whom she had known for a while and thought this person to be a good, polite, respectable man. Jordan showed up with him one day and the two of them hit it off and started dating. When did this all start? Roughly a week and a half after he got out of jail on August 29th. That man seriously does not let any grass grow under his feet. They had been together for about a month and of course he fed her many of the same lies that he told me: fake age, said he lived in England as a child as he was sent away because his mother was crazy, was an independent IT consultant, came back to the US about 4 years ago and purchased a house which he sold about 6 months ago to help bail his biological parents out of debt. That’s pretty funny when he was arrested 6 months ago. He wined her and dined her and of course seemed very suave, gentlemanly and was willing to take his time romantically. The topper? Another fake name. He had told her his name was Gee Jones-Jordan. Jones being the last name of the family who raised him in England and Jordan being his biological last name. What a dick. Gee isn’t surprising because he had told me that his name was Guillaume and the dating website we met on, his username was Gee1975. Gee being short for Guillaume. He can’t even be God damned original. I advised her to change everything: the locks on her doors, all passwords to all accounts and emails as well as putting protections in place with all 3 major credit reporting agencies. I now know how Mary felt when I came forward. I, myself, had a multitude of feelings but the primary feeling was anger and hatred. I can’t stand that this man will just start his shit so soon afterwards while STILL on trial for MY crimes against him! Is he just trying to compile case after case? Who knows. Maybe he truly does want to be caught and stopped and locked away. I somehow doubt it. He is compulsive and narcissistic on top of everything. A truly dangerous cad.
This leads me to my next update. I was advised by the Helsinki Commission out of Washington DC that William Jordan CAN be added to Megan’s List (and all of his aliases) as a sex offender. Yay!!!!! Back in 2008 the guidelines changed to recognize the convictions from Canada, Australia, New Zealand and the United Kingdom. So I started at my local police department, then the Burlington County Prosecutor’s office and then to the Camden County Prosecutor’s office. I gave them all of the information on the guidelines, passed on all of the information and they said that once they verify the conviction from the UK, then he can be added. However, the UK is NOT one to give up that information lightly and requires the US to do a song and dance to get the information. They don’t have the power of public records on criminals out there like we do with OPRA – the Open Public Records Act. I am keeping on the investigator on the case and will NOT let this drop. It’s just one more way to stop his evil ways and keep him away from children permanently.
Next is the rape by deception law. It’s in its final stages of the final terminology out of Trenton and will come back for final approval before it goes to the Assembly for a vote. I, of course, have notified them of the latest misdeeds by William Allen Jordan aka: Will Jordan, Bill Jordan, Bill Jones, Liam Allen, Guillaume Allen, Gee Jones-Jordan, William Jordon or whatever version of his damn name he wants to try to use to con women and prevent them from googling his name. I will keep adding his aliases as I get them so that when a person tries to google his name, they are brought right to this blog and find out the truth. He deserves nothing less than to be alone the rest of his life. He can bring no positivity to ANYONE that comes in contact with him because he is an habitual liar. He knows that he is getting older (pushing 50 next spring) and he is going to be looking for a secure woman to secure his own future through her. He is going to be looking for someone who has her own house, her own apartment, her own car (don’t let him use it – he doesn’t have a license!), stable career that she has been in for years and while he pretends to go to work, while his primary relationship is at her job, he will probably be with someone who has an opposite schedule as her. I work nights 3 days a week and he magically could often not talk to me between the hours of 9am and 6pm. He could seldom spend nights with me because he said he was working nights too. I wholly believe that there was someone else out there who worked a 9 to 5 that he was conning simultaneously as me. Maybe even 2 others as there is evidence of 3 other women – one right before me and 2 during me and now this new one. This brings his known victim count up to 19. That’s staggering. Of course the Burlington County Prosecutor’s office reminded me that it’s not illegal to lie and to do what he did and unless this new victim finds something missing from her house or that he tried to steal her identity or some other crime, he cannot be charged, but she has been added to our elite group of Will Jordan exes. I hate so much that this “club” keeps growing. I really hoped that after me there would be a large period of time before anyone else came forward because he would fly under the radar. Nope, not so much. Then to be aided by a family member who I now believe is probably a psychopath in his own right as to not correct Jordan’s lies but to enable the lies to happen and to a colleague no less! Just despicable and low. In my line of work, we use the phrase “apple trees grow apples”. If you have crazy parents, you have a high chance of having crazy kids. This would be a psychologists/psychiatrists dream case study – the Jordan family.
Lastly, to those of you who are in the Philadelphia area, catch my interview tomorrow (Thursday October 23rd) on Wired 96.5 on the Big Philly Show. My interview will air at 7:30 AM and then repeat at 9:30 AM. I will be telling my story with Jordan’s name being given an “alternative” name to protect his privacy (HA!) and then a special song dedicated to him at the end of the interview. Of course I’m not going to give it away, you will have to tune in to listen! If you live outside of the Philadelphia area, you can stream the broadcast online here: Stream Wired 96.5 Now. I am going to record it and will upload it to YouTube (unless Wired 96.5 already does this and I can just link to it) so that you guys can all hear my interview.
As for the Dateline NBC front, I still have no news as to an air date on this. I’m really upset because we rushed to get it filmed over the summer and had an original air date for August. I was planning this whole viewing party, built a firepit to be able to entertain outdoors and here we are nearly 2 months and the warm weather has now waned towards the chilly nights, wind and rain. My schedule is planned all the way to Valentine’s day and work a lot of Fridays, which is when Dateline airs. I do keep in frequent contact with the producers and really when it airs is out of their hands to the programming gods. I just have to be patient and realize that it’s going to air when it’s right and will get the best impact. However I do update the main producer of what is going on at my end weekly as well as the amazing journalist who has been writing my articles for the Burlington County Times and is so super funny outside of writing crime articles. One of her first articles are what got the notice of my assemblyman to start working on a bill and thus the trickle effect. A lot of my experience has started with someone knowing someone who put me in touch with someone and then someone else saw an article, a documentary, a twitter post, a Facebook post and then it’s snowballed from there. I am INFINTELY thankful for the help of every, single, solitary person who has helped me make this process the success it’s going to be. Not just for me and seeking justice against William Jordan, but for every other woman who ever encounters a defrauding conman like him. Who may read this blog and recognize that they are in this kind of manipulative relationship and somehow digs really deep inside themselves and takes the courage to get out. Is it scary? Hell yes! Do you wonder what you are going to do with your life? Absolutely. But it CAN be done to save yourself, your family, your children from a toxic relationship. If you hae kids your relationship are the model to them as to what a normal relationship to be like. If you don’t want your children to end up with a man or woman like you are with now, then get out, take time to heal and then seek out a healthy relationship for you and them. Model them that it doesn’t have to be disappointment, struggle, contempt, suspicion and anger. I have recently realized that the world is not full of William Jordans. I have started talking to someone, taking it really slow but it’s someone who is considerate of everything I have been through and is kind of treating me with kid gloves. Not rushing anything, realizing that I have been hurt and may be leery but I keep trying to prove that I am not the same girl that I was 3 months ago or 6 months ago. I am evolving throughout this process. Does a paranoid thought cross my mind now and again? Sure. But I am aware that it’s irrational and not likely. I can totally talk rational into my thoughts and enjoy the moments that life is bringing me now. Embrace the happiness that there is and not wallow in what was, what wasn’t, what could have been because I dodge a bullet. I could have been the 4th or 5th Mrs. William Jordan in a long line of broken hearts, broke accounts and destitute. Instead I’m planning a European vacation with my daughter for next spring and some other magical trip for both kids either in late summer or early fall. Of course we have our season passes to Six Flags Great Adventure. I will keep moving forward. More forward towards love and light. Positivity, healing and redemption. When Jordan ends back up in state prison again (and it’s only a matter of time – weeks or months) then I can breathe a sigh of relief again that he is off the streets and away from humanity which he shows a clear lack of empathy for anyone or anything. He is out for himself and anything that can better himself, benefit himself and is willing to be smart and take his time about it. If it seems too good to be true, it is. If you google a name and NOTHING comes up, ask for ID. A real driver’s license and use me as an excuse if you want. Say “hey I know this girl who totally got conned by this guy and so I hate to ask but….” Meet the family after a couple of months. Make note of his or her mail and the names on it. Are the a bunch of collection notices or your standard bills. Then you have an idea of their financial status. Do your research as early as possible and of course if a guy in the Cherry Hill area who is saying he was raised in England – RUN!!!! Don’t look back. If he has driven your car – call the police. If you have given him money, call the police. Do not let him in your house, especially not left unattended. He has been known to plant bugs in his past exes houses that were found after the fact. Be diligent and if you think you may be dating him, feel free to contact me. I have a contact me form at the top and of course my email is MischeleLewis@gmail.com. I welcome any and all comments. My twitter is @Mischele2k2 and my public Facebook page is here.
I am off of week all this week because I technically was supposed to be on my honeymoon. So what did I do this week? Caught up on the entire 3rd season of American Horror Story: Coven after spending the last month watching the first 2 seasons. Great show, I highly recommend it. Paying bills and keeping up with my various government people playing phone tag with everyone as well as a lot of self-reflection and how I want to be in the future, to snap out of this weird numbness. It’s coming. With time, it’s coming and one person CAN make a difference. Remember that peeps. No matter how small, or how insignificant you think you are in this world? Guess what, you can be AMAZING. Is the first step scary? Hell yeah! Just don’t be afraid of rejection. A no is better than no answer at all. If that person says no, find one who will say yes and then build your support from there.
We have our next court date on November 10th, but I’m sure an update will come out before them. I really have to plaster in my behind to update this blog weekly. Been slacking lately, ugh.
Lastly, I want ot thank the people in my community. The ones who stop me on the street, in a store, dropping up or picking up the kids from work just to give me their support. You have NO idea how much it means to me, even if it’s texts, facebook messages, emails, form submissions from this site. Keep them coming and are all replied to!
Until next time…….