I was approached about a week and a half ago about a follow up article being done by the Philadelphia Daily News. They covered my case from last year and wanted to update people on what has happened since they first reported everything and I agreed. Little did I know that this would thrust everything back into the spotlight. Since the article appeared on the front page of the paper Tuesday, I have done 2 radio interviews: one for CBS and another for KYW, both out of Philadelphia and have a Skype interview scheduled for Saturday morning for Fox in Philadelphia. I will be in NYC next week filming for a new show to debut this fall. Detains on that to follow when I have the official word to share it. 😉
Here is the link to the Philadelphia Daily News article: Philly.com
It was also featured on LoveFraud here: LoveFraud.com
I have to be honest (not that I haven’t been to you guys), but I kind of took the last few months off of everything. The case was done and people who were supposed to be “helping” me with this law, stabbed me in the back and it has left a very bitter taste in my mouth. As if I didn’t have trust issues already, it makes me want to tell nobody anything lest they try to either claim it as their own or sabotage it because they believe in one thing and it’s not quite the direction I wanted to go in. It was like being victimized by victims themselves. Perhaps they can’t help themselves and it’s their own self defense mechanism, however they had been at this a lot longer than I have been and was looking for guidance. I feel like this whole world of legislation and legal battles – I’m just a newbie. I’m not an attorney but I do my research on the current laws and revisions in New Jersey as well as the laws that there are across the country and internationally. I am HUMAN. I can definitely tell that I have grown a lot in the last year, because comments made about me in online articles, tweets, facebook and emails used to really offend me, but I am better now at brushing a lot of it off. I realize that most of the people making those comments are generally ignorant about my case. They read one article and it’s just a snapshot of everything that I have gone through in the last 2.5 years, not the whole picture. One facebook commenter even admitted that she doesn’t even live in this country, let alone this state and admitted that she didn’t know how the whole judicial/legislative process worked, yet she was so against my law. Really??? So, you were all in a tizzy over my bill and it will NEVER affect you? Then why be mad about it? I certainly wouldn’t knock a law I didn’t believe in if it happened, say, in Germany or Japan. I absolutely wouldn’t bash the victim for crying out loud. People are also still operating under the same old assumptions: that he dumped me, that I didn’t do my research, that I made poor decisions and want all men to suffer for them and that this law will catch every liar out there. False, false, false and false!
I will say this, yet again. I broke things off with him the very next day after I found out the truth. I then proceeded to set him up for 9 weeks while I gathered up evidence to support my case. This ties into to catching every liar out there. People think that you can just accuse people willy nilly? Wrong! You need some kind of evidence to back up your claims or else the police won’t even talk to you. I had absolutely air tight evidence and yet I was constantly scrutinized and essentially prosecuted right along William Jordan. As for research: I researched EVERYTHING that I had on that man that I was given – email address, phone number, name, etc. I even tried to search where he said he went to school. Nothing ever came up wrong and want to know why? Because EVERYTHING HE TOLD ME WAS LIES! I can’t google what I don’t know the information to and when I finally had the correct name, what I found was horrendous and confronted him the very next day. Last is about poor decisions. First of all, read back to the early posts of this blog and see the timeline of events. We didn’t take our relationship physical until we were many months into the relationship and the whole “secret agent” story didn’t come out until months after that. He didn’t pretend to have loads of money, he said he lived a simple lifestyle. He didn’t live life with expensive things or a flashy exterior. I was with him because he seemed like a genuinely good person but with a devil’s interior. I was in it for the long haul preparing to get married and start a family. I wasn’t in it for any awesome benefit other than to just be with this person and share our lives and love together. People have commented about waiting until marriage to have sex. Come on, it’s 2015, not 1897. I am sure if you took a poll of couples and saw how many people has premarital sex, I am sure you would see that the numbers would probably be over 70%. I also didn’t rush into it either, so where is the poor decision? Why because I couldn’t be a super sleuth and find out about who he was earlier? Compared to many victims, I got off fairly easy. I am out one year of my life as opposed to many years or decades.
Want to know why this seems like a foreign concept to a lot of people? Because nobody talks about it. Victims skulk away in their shame and humiliation. They don’t tell their friends or families. They just tell people that they broke up with their partner and go about their lives no other answered questions. They suffer in silence when they don’t have to. I have received so many emails from other victims and at least 90% never told a soul what they were going through. How sad is that? I know I couldn’t have done it without the amazing support of my friends and family which I continue to receive. However, the emotional toll it takes on a person is devastating. The depression, anxiety, anger, trust issues going forward and always the self doubt and mental mutilation that people put themselves through. If you are someone who can just encapsulate your feelings and shove it in some mental filing cabinet never to be seen again? Congratulations, you are in the minority. I am just trying to give victims an outlet, recourse and to know that you are NOT alone! Not all victims are as lucky as me to of had alternative charges against Jordan that I could get him jailed for. Not everyone loses money to where they can claim fraud or are stalked to where they can claim harassment. A lot of these psychopaths/sociopaths are so incredibly smart and clever. They are often pros at their game and know exactly who to target and how. They are master manipulators and can turn any conversation around on you without you even knowing it. Listening back on old conversations, I can see how he would so slyly turn arguments around on me and make me feel like I was at fault for everything or that it was my perception of things or my thinking was wrong. Then they turn around and make you feel like the most cherished possession in their life. It’s emotionally horrifying to find out that all of that is a lie. The violation that accompanied it was immeasurable and THAT is the basis behind this law.
The whole process is going to take about 2 years, maybe. The law will be revised again and again to make it palatable for lawmakers to want to lend their John Hancock to it. Oh, and rape was removed out of , the law within 3 weeks of it being introduced, so everyone is still hung up on that work even though it hasn’t been a part of the terminology since at least December. The law is sex by fraud rather than rape by deception as people got offended over the semantics. As I have updates, I will update you all but as of right now it’s a waiting game. Plus I don’t want to post too much lest this info fall into the wrong, sabotaging hands.
Until next time…..