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Slacking and Other Updates

Ok, I will be the first to admit, I haven’t posted an update in about forever!  So much has happened in the last few months.  As a start, I still reply to all comments that come to me here and to every email that comes to me through this site and for being diligent in sending your messages along, I thank you.  I get far less hate mail and far more support emails and messages for help or those who just want to tell their stories and know they are not alone.  I was hoping that this would be the end result at some point.  Kindred spirits all conjoining together.  I know that I felt really good to know that I wasn’t alone in my own situation with other William Jordan victims, to hear their stories, hear their feelings and see how they have overcome it all through the years and how it does get better.  It’s true, time does heal all things.  I am in a better place than I was 6 months ago and certainly in a better place a year ago when the whole legal drama ended with Jordan going back to jail. That, I will say, is where my healing truly began.

I started to write my book and when it got just past the part of his first arrest, to read back on my own text messages and emails became really hard.  To analyze it all through different eyes was hard.  I had seen where I was trusting too much, loving too much, putting faith in not just one basket, but a basket full of holes.  Gaping ones.  I was able to read conversations between us where he would constantly turn things around on me.  Everything was my fault.  I misinterpreted something he said, I took something out of context, I extrapolated something the wrong way, I was reading more into something than it was, I was being too sensitive, etc, etc, etc.  He would apologize before making a back handed comment that I wouldn’t recognize in my need for forgiveness and acceptance.  So I took time off from the book.  Then last summer I decided to do something crazy like go back to school in 7 week blocks instead of 15 week semesters.  It was very writing intensive and with the kids home from school, trying to be a full time nurse, full time mom and a student on top of it, the book got further pushed to the wayside.  After 2 semesters, I was really feeling a bit overwhelmed with it all.  I realized that online learning is not my cup of tea.  It has been 10 years since I graduated college the first time, but I was married and my daughter was young.  I wasn’t working so that I could focus on school full time and my daughter was in daycare on my school days and picked up by my husband while I studied with my my group of study buddies whom I still consider sacred friends to this day.  I need a classroom, but I am a different woman now.  I work full time nights, I am a full time single mom.  My mom watches my kids on the nights and weekends that I work so I can’t manage to saddle her any more to watch the kids so that I can attend classes and also adjust my work schedule to attend classes in person.  So now school is on hold and we are going back to the book.  I NEED to complete the book.  For starters, a lot of people are asking me about it because they want to read the details that no print or television interview can ever convey because there is just not enough time.  I also wanted enough time to go by that I could also go through the healing process of the last year rather than just the whole sordid story itself.

I am dedicating the year of 2016 as a good year.  It’s going to be a year of metamorphosis and change. It’s going to be life anew on many levels: personally, internally, professionally, educationally and any other way that I can find.  I did an interview with Fox News locally for a show called Chasing News.  It airs between Philadelphia and New York and either leads into the 10pm news or at midnight. It’s a show shot on GoPro cameras and then the various producers discuss the different segments.  So on a random day at Starbucks, me and the one producer, Jessica had an hour long chat.  We’re both local and she had come across my story. In the end Jordan, who has refused every interview that has gone his way – probably because he doesn’t want to get crucified more in the media than he already has been – said he just wants to move on with his life.  That his hysterical!!!  Hopefully he will never be able to move on with another female as long as he lives because he will NEVER change his spots.  After 3 decades of conning and deceit, it’s not going to change. Perhaps he should have made better choices in life.  He has made his bed and will have to lie in his bed of consequences forever.  As if the 20+ victims in his wake will ever be able to truly move on without a scar on their heart and their psyche. As if they will ever be the whole people they were before. Yeah, good luck with that buddy.  As is typical, the male point of view was very antagonistic and judgmental about the sex by fraud law.  It’s always the same misconception: that anyone and everyone will just go willy nilly accusing people of sex by deception.  Unfortunately for the truly ignorant, the judicial system doesn’t work like that.  You will have to provide your burden of proof, your absolute proof that you were deceived, intentionally for the sake of sex.  To prove that the other person acted truly out of malicious intent.  The police are not going to go around arresting every jilted lover out there. That isn’t even the purpose nor intent of the law.  It’s to catch those who go around and essentially catfish people egregiously. Those who lie about their identity, steal another’s identity in order to be with someone and for the purpose to deceive, harm, steal another’s identity, steal their possessions, cause emotional distress up to and including symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder as some victims have experienced in the aftermath of the most severe mental manipulators. Those are the criminals that I want to get off the streets.  The people who would serve to be a psychiatrist’s dream case. So just know, you are not alone.  You are never alone. I have received upwards of 300 emails and facebook messages over the last year of men and women who have been conned in their past.  Sometimes it’s a crime of the heart and mind and others have literally lost everything.  It astounds me as to how common these kinds of crimes are but next to none are prosecuted.  I have hope that in telling people the steps I took, that some people have sought justice in their own right.  For those who couldn’t, I know what it’s like to feel helpless because that’s how I felt before the authorities got involved in my case and it started to take shape.  I can feel that feeling like it was yesterday rather than 2 years ago.  The strong urge to want to stop this reign of terror but not knowing what steps to take, where to turn and who would help.  I also told very few people because I felt so incredibly stupid for falling prey to something like that.  I felt full of shame and regret for putting my family, my children and my friends through that year of fakeness and some people endure it for years or decades.  I have lost friends because of what happened and get judged about it all of the time, but I am in a place that I just don’t give a shit.   I took back my power by giving it a voice, by giving it a name and by going public about it.  Is it for everyone?  No. Everyone has to find their own healing process whether it be through therapy, art, working out, yoga, meditation, music or shouting it loud from the rooftops.  Find what works for you and roll with it.  I hope you find your inner peace.  Below is the Fox News interview:

A 24 hour City Girl

Several weeks ago I was contacted by this burgeoning show out of New York City who came across this blog and had ready my story and like most people were flabbergasted to read the ordeal that I’ve had to go through the last 2 years with William Jordan the whirlwind romance, the “secret life”, the money, the engagement and then me finding the truth. After that was court date after court date, uncovering more victims and finally his sentencing.  It’s been a really long and emotionally taxing two years to say the least, but I digress.  So they invited me to be one of their first guests.  They explained to me what the show was about and it was to keep American’s families safe by profiling other people’s cautionary tales.  I am more than willing to tell my story from the rooftops, mountaintops, skyscraper tops – anywhere that may prevent other victims or have victims get out of these wholly toxic relationships that can damage some people irreparibly depending on how long the deceit and the extent of the lies that were told.  It makes my heart so happy when I receive emails from people who come to me and thank me for telling my story because they feel inspired or empowered to get out, to try to prosecute their aggressors.  Not all cases are as cut and dry as mine was where I had the theft by deception very locked up and I was just praying that the other charges stuck because the more charges there were, the more time he got.  To keep that man off the streets away from the general public, especially single mom’s that he is NOT preying on gives me great peace in my soul. So they wanted to tell my story on their show which is hosted by Paul Viollis who had worked his way through the New York District Attorney’s Office of Criminal Court.  He is a trained profiler and has been the CEO of Corporate Risk Consulting.  Needless to say, a very varied and impressive background.  He has been doing podcasts called The Security Brief and now it’s being taken into a syndicated show that starts airing in a few weeks.  After a lot of phone calls, email exchanges of information and setting dates, I was off to the Big Apple for about 24 hours to film for the show.  Needless to say they were just so amazing to me, my mom and several other victims who came with me, appeared by skype or by telephone.  It gave me an additional place to tell my story and for people to recognize red flags that I will admit I was too blinded by love and blind faith that things would improve, that “Liam” would finally come through for us and eveything would be ok between us. He always had these lofty promises of how great our life would be after x, y, z happened and would assure me that through our problems were front loaded, our lives would be amazing when everything finally fell into place, which of course they never did.

So after a tummy bug from what I think was spoiled Chinese food from the night before and a lot of pepto bismol later, we were off to NY via car service (that never gets old!).  Here are some of my views traveling up the NJ Turnpike:

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One World Trade Center, whose observation deck opened just this past Friday.  Having been up this way all my life, I still can’t get over the difference in the skyline without the twin towers there.

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We waited a good 30+ minutes in line just to go through the Lincoln Tunnel.  Private drivers have the patience of Job!

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The USS Intrepid museum – Intrepid means “fearless”.  It was absolutely appropriate for my reason to be in the city.

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Stop at the Hotel Belleclaire which is at 77th street and Broadway.  It was a block from the Beacon Theater, Central Park, The Museum of Natural History.  Much more of a residential area on the upper West Side than midtown.

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After a lousy night’s sleep, I was dressed to impress!

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Their greenroom was comfy, but not green.  It was blue.  🙂

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Sign on the inside of their green room.  I guess for those who travel so extensively to remember what town they were in.  Not that you can ever forget NYC!

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Myself and the show host Paul Viollis after we filmed the show.  Such a consummate gentlemen.  Kept giving me encouragement every commercial break and his staff couldn’t have been lovelier.

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Then of course I had to treat us to some Gray’s Papaya hot dogs!  They are world famous and referenced in a ton of movies.  I was NOT disappointed.  Their pina colada drink is divine and very refreshing.  We waanted the coconut champagne but they were out.  Boo hiss….   There was an Insomnia Cookie around the corner that we wanted to check out but alas didn’t.  There was also a 24 hour bakery on the next block with some of the most decadent fruit tarts I had ever seen.  Of course intentions are always well but reality doesn’t quite fit in there.

I am so thankful that 3 other victims could join me on the show.  Mary Turner Thomson and one of the children she bore with William Jordan appeared by Skype out of Scotland.  Another victim “Liz” appeared in shillouette and then one more “Ava” (who couldn’t get out of work) was there by phone.  I hung out with “Liz” the night before.  We had talked on the phone, excchanged phone numbers, emails and such but we never met face to face.  Let me say she is a kindred spirit!  We connected right away with our common job of nurses, children and of course William Jordan who she knew as Gui Jones.  He had pretended to be a pediatric resident at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia.  He would be there in hospital issued scrubs and have lunch with her and then they’d go their separate ways.  The relationship between her and Jordan with my relationship overlapped for about the first 6 months.  Then he disappeared off the planet and she never heard from him again until she picked up a fluke night shift for a friend, was getting dressed and sat on her remote which tuned into Dateline on NBC and she saw his face.  She was in absolute shock and we connected that night.  Her and I think that he has a “type” as we’re all amazing, strong women and good mothers.  A psychologist would have a field day trying to crack that man’s mind and why he does what he does.

My mom and I had dinner at Bettola which is on Amsterdam in ther upper West Side.  It was a little chilly for al fresco dining, so we went inside.  I had the pasta with the peccorino romano sauce and fresh black pepper.  It was light and delicious.  My mom had a spinach fetucchini that had sausage and peas in a light lemon basil sauce.  They were to die for.

The show, called The Security Brief, will be airing in syndication starting June 29th.  My show was the 4th one ever filmed yet, so I would assume it would be the 4th story to air which sould put me at July 2nd.  I was told it could be on Bravo, Lifetime, and other stations.  I will keep you all updated of course when I have the official word.

It was truly amazing to have those other girls there with me.  Liz and Ava had never spoken publically about their stories and I hope that it gave them some peace, a feeling of accomplishment and empowerment that they are potentially helping other men and women out there who may be in relationships like that and need to get out!  Or people who didn’t know that they could prosecute.  I have helped a few people start their cases just by telling them what evidence I had amassed and what channels I had to go through in order to get someone to take the case and how hard I had to ride the prosecutor to get a modicum of justice out of the system.  They call me their hero and I call them mine.  I love the mutual admiration that we have and that we can have conversations that nearly nobody else on the earth could possibly understand except for us victims.  I was just smiling ear to ear during their segments.  Ladies, I am PROUD of you!

I love New York.  If I had a really good income, I could move then in a heartbeat. I love the vibe, the little intricate stores and restaurants and the fact that there is ALWAYS something going on, even if it’s just people watching.

So needless to say I will keep everyone updated on the show and I was notified by Troy Singleton’s office that our bill was not on the agenda for next week’s judicial hearing meetings.  I also found out that there is this fraudulent imposter has been using my name all over her blog in orter to attempt to bolster her own image in this process when in reality she has NONE.  I am sorry I ever met her, talked to her, told her anything.  She is hell bent in stealing my law from me and she doens’t even live in the state of NJ nor is she Troy’s constituent like I am.  Her suggestions end up going to the round recycle bin and that’s about it.  She has a blog post up asking for the public’s input on what to change the name to.  I have been in touch with Troy’s office since that I was brought up to my attnetion and they said she calls and they just uh-huh her to death.  She is sick, twisted and convulted by constantly referencing my name and Jordan’s crime, but I really want her to keep my name out of her mouth and out of her blog.  I see a cease desist letter coming soon.

Until next time….

Victory At Last!

Eleven days short of one year of finding out the truth about William Allen Jordan, there is justice at long last.  Today was sentencing day!!!   If you will recall, back on November 11, 2014, he signed and accepted the plea deal for 3 years in prison effective TODAY!   Court was supposed to start at 9am and in typical William Jordan style, he was late.  Nearly 2 hours late.  My victim’s advocate was thinking that his attorney probably holed him away in a spare room, but I know better.  It was a very chilly morning, but not as chilly as yesterday with winds in the 40 mph range making it feel like 0 degrees F. The sun was out and the snow and ice is still melting from the past couple of storms that thankfully didn’t drop a deluge of snow on us (sorry New England).  After stopping for my typical iced coffee and heading up to the courthouse to face the same judge that has seen this case all along, we were waiting for the prosecutor to show up as well as Jordan.  I have to admit, sitting in a courtroom can be pretty fascinating.  There are some really crazy people out there and unless you’re forced to sit through other proceedings, you would never realize the kind of crime that goes on around us.  Finally the prosecutor comes in and pulls me into a conference room.  He was notified by Jordan’s attorney that he had a cashier’s check for the FULL RESTITUTION AMOUNT!   He said that is VERY unprecedented.  My first thought?  Whose money is it?  I still hadn’t laid eyes on Jordan yet so I didn’t believe anything until he showed up, check in hand and it cleared.  A half hour later, my mom nudged me and said, “He’s here.”   I refused to turn to look at him.  I could just see the movement of a person in the periphery of my vision. Two cases later, our case was called.  I had submitted this long 3.5 page victim impact statement last July but had made a new one that was much shorter.  I knew that I would have to approach the court and it would be for all to hear. The judge started to hear both sides of the story from both the prosecutor and Jordan’s attorney, who tried to down play the sexual assault of a minor he committed in the UK.  Like really?  He pled GUILTY to it!!!  How are you going to downplay that he’s not a child molester?  That really burned me but I wasn’t going to get hit with contempt of court over it. The judge started to recite his past misdeeds with 9 charges in 7 jurisdictions of writing bad checks starting in 1984.  Then his convictions in the UK and years of not getting caught in the US until recently.  The judge said that his repetitive pattern of behavior represents serious offenses.  That his extensive fraud and deception to the present case is also very serious. Previous jail sentences, community services and fines had not deterred him.   His conduct was criminal and subject to punishment, given my disturbing statement as he had read my previous, long impact statement and the statements of his other victims. He was given 130 days credit for the time served from April 22nd to August 29th.  He had to pay $155 in fines plus my nearly $4400 in restitution which he did then pull out a check to give to his attorney who gave it to the prosecutor who then gave it to me with this entire transfer being on record. He also has to supply the state with a DNA sample so that any DNA cases could be compared to him in the future. He agreed to all of it and via his attorney wanted nothing but to atone for what he had done, pay me back and to truly repent (BULLSHIT!).  He also said his parents had been ill (his dad didn’t look so ill bowling a couple of months ago all smiles and personality) and that his mom had been in and out of the hospital since he was bailed out with he being her primary care taker.  This is also bullshit because his Vermont victim who still had access to his bank account said he had been near Bennington, VT for the last multiple weekends spending his money at restaurants and stores.  But that’s caring for his oh so sickly mother?  Oh and the mother he told the Vermont victim that she had died and he was coming into some big inheritance that he was going to split with her and put into a trust for her child?  I can’t believe he lied bold faced right there to his attorney and the judge.  Again, not my place to correct it and to put myself in trouble.  After all was agreed to and the appeal statement signed, he was sentenced and handcuffed, led away by the prison guard.  Within 3 hours he was listed as an inmate at the Burlington County Jail.  Home sweet home.  Within a week or so he will be sent with the other inmates who are relegated to state prison for sorting and from there he will be placed in his final facility.  That will be viewable on the New Jersey department of corrections page.  His whereabouts will be public information.  He should serve the entire 3 years of his sentence, minus those 130 days, so for 2 years and 235 days, the women of the Delaware Valley can feel safe and sound – at least from this man and only for a while.  I have NO QUALMS in my mind that he will get out and do it again.  His attorney made it sound like I needed to move on with my life and don’t get me wrong, I am moving on with my life.  But I will never stop being a thorn in this man’s ass, making it as hard as possible for him to defraud another woman in this area or anywhere.  I know it’s a futile plight, but as long as I’m bringing awareness, that’s all I can do.

Here is a photo of Jordan and his attorney while I was reading my victim’s impact statement:

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Here are also 2 articles that have already come out tonight about the case today:

Burlington County Times

NJ.com