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A 24 hour City Girl

Several weeks ago I was contacted by this burgeoning show out of New York City who came across this blog and had ready my story and like most people were flabbergasted to read the ordeal that I’ve had to go through the last 2 years with William Jordan the whirlwind romance, the “secret life”, the money, the engagement and then me finding the truth. After that was court date after court date, uncovering more victims and finally his sentencing.  It’s been a really long and emotionally taxing two years to say the least, but I digress.  So they invited me to be one of their first guests.  They explained to me what the show was about and it was to keep American’s families safe by profiling other people’s cautionary tales.  I am more than willing to tell my story from the rooftops, mountaintops, skyscraper tops – anywhere that may prevent other victims or have victims get out of these wholly toxic relationships that can damage some people irreparibly depending on how long the deceit and the extent of the lies that were told.  It makes my heart so happy when I receive emails from people who come to me and thank me for telling my story because they feel inspired or empowered to get out, to try to prosecute their aggressors.  Not all cases are as cut and dry as mine was where I had the theft by deception very locked up and I was just praying that the other charges stuck because the more charges there were, the more time he got.  To keep that man off the streets away from the general public, especially single mom’s that he is NOT preying on gives me great peace in my soul. So they wanted to tell my story on their show which is hosted by Paul Viollis who had worked his way through the New York District Attorney’s Office of Criminal Court.  He is a trained profiler and has been the CEO of Corporate Risk Consulting.  Needless to say, a very varied and impressive background.  He has been doing podcasts called The Security Brief and now it’s being taken into a syndicated show that starts airing in a few weeks.  After a lot of phone calls, email exchanges of information and setting dates, I was off to the Big Apple for about 24 hours to film for the show.  Needless to say they were just so amazing to me, my mom and several other victims who came with me, appeared by skype or by telephone.  It gave me an additional place to tell my story and for people to recognize red flags that I will admit I was too blinded by love and blind faith that things would improve, that “Liam” would finally come through for us and eveything would be ok between us. He always had these lofty promises of how great our life would be after x, y, z happened and would assure me that through our problems were front loaded, our lives would be amazing when everything finally fell into place, which of course they never did.

So after a tummy bug from what I think was spoiled Chinese food from the night before and a lot of pepto bismol later, we were off to NY via car service (that never gets old!).  Here are some of my views traveling up the NJ Turnpike:

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One World Trade Center, whose observation deck opened just this past Friday.  Having been up this way all my life, I still can’t get over the difference in the skyline without the twin towers there.

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We waited a good 30+ minutes in line just to go through the Lincoln Tunnel.  Private drivers have the patience of Job!

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The USS Intrepid museum – Intrepid means “fearless”.  It was absolutely appropriate for my reason to be in the city.

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Stop at the Hotel Belleclaire which is at 77th street and Broadway.  It was a block from the Beacon Theater, Central Park, The Museum of Natural History.  Much more of a residential area on the upper West Side than midtown.

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After a lousy night’s sleep, I was dressed to impress!

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Their greenroom was comfy, but not green.  It was blue.  🙂

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Sign on the inside of their green room.  I guess for those who travel so extensively to remember what town they were in.  Not that you can ever forget NYC!

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Myself and the show host Paul Viollis after we filmed the show.  Such a consummate gentlemen.  Kept giving me encouragement every commercial break and his staff couldn’t have been lovelier.

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Then of course I had to treat us to some Gray’s Papaya hot dogs!  They are world famous and referenced in a ton of movies.  I was NOT disappointed.  Their pina colada drink is divine and very refreshing.  We waanted the coconut champagne but they were out.  Boo hiss….   There was an Insomnia Cookie around the corner that we wanted to check out but alas didn’t.  There was also a 24 hour bakery on the next block with some of the most decadent fruit tarts I had ever seen.  Of course intentions are always well but reality doesn’t quite fit in there.

I am so thankful that 3 other victims could join me on the show.  Mary Turner Thomson and one of the children she bore with William Jordan appeared by Skype out of Scotland.  Another victim “Liz” appeared in shillouette and then one more “Ava” (who couldn’t get out of work) was there by phone.  I hung out with “Liz” the night before.  We had talked on the phone, excchanged phone numbers, emails and such but we never met face to face.  Let me say she is a kindred spirit!  We connected right away with our common job of nurses, children and of course William Jordan who she knew as Gui Jones.  He had pretended to be a pediatric resident at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia.  He would be there in hospital issued scrubs and have lunch with her and then they’d go their separate ways.  The relationship between her and Jordan with my relationship overlapped for about the first 6 months.  Then he disappeared off the planet and she never heard from him again until she picked up a fluke night shift for a friend, was getting dressed and sat on her remote which tuned into Dateline on NBC and she saw his face.  She was in absolute shock and we connected that night.  Her and I think that he has a “type” as we’re all amazing, strong women and good mothers.  A psychologist would have a field day trying to crack that man’s mind and why he does what he does.

My mom and I had dinner at Bettola which is on Amsterdam in ther upper West Side.  It was a little chilly for al fresco dining, so we went inside.  I had the pasta with the peccorino romano sauce and fresh black pepper.  It was light and delicious.  My mom had a spinach fetucchini that had sausage and peas in a light lemon basil sauce.  They were to die for.

The show, called The Security Brief, will be airing in syndication starting June 29th.  My show was the 4th one ever filmed yet, so I would assume it would be the 4th story to air which sould put me at July 2nd.  I was told it could be on Bravo, Lifetime, and other stations.  I will keep you all updated of course when I have the official word.

It was truly amazing to have those other girls there with me.  Liz and Ava had never spoken publically about their stories and I hope that it gave them some peace, a feeling of accomplishment and empowerment that they are potentially helping other men and women out there who may be in relationships like that and need to get out!  Or people who didn’t know that they could prosecute.  I have helped a few people start their cases just by telling them what evidence I had amassed and what channels I had to go through in order to get someone to take the case and how hard I had to ride the prosecutor to get a modicum of justice out of the system.  They call me their hero and I call them mine.  I love the mutual admiration that we have and that we can have conversations that nearly nobody else on the earth could possibly understand except for us victims.  I was just smiling ear to ear during their segments.  Ladies, I am PROUD of you!

I love New York.  If I had a really good income, I could move then in a heartbeat. I love the vibe, the little intricate stores and restaurants and the fact that there is ALWAYS something going on, even if it’s just people watching.

So needless to say I will keep everyone updated on the show and I was notified by Troy Singleton’s office that our bill was not on the agenda for next week’s judicial hearing meetings.  I also found out that there is this fraudulent imposter has been using my name all over her blog in orter to attempt to bolster her own image in this process when in reality she has NONE.  I am sorry I ever met her, talked to her, told her anything.  She is hell bent in stealing my law from me and she doens’t even live in the state of NJ nor is she Troy’s constituent like I am.  Her suggestions end up going to the round recycle bin and that’s about it.  She has a blog post up asking for the public’s input on what to change the name to.  I have been in touch with Troy’s office since that I was brought up to my attnetion and they said she calls and they just uh-huh her to death.  She is sick, twisted and convulted by constantly referencing my name and Jordan’s crime, but I really want her to keep my name out of her mouth and out of her blog.  I see a cease desist letter coming soon.

Until next time….

Parole vs. ISP?

Yes, you heard it here first.  William Jordan has applied for BOTH parole and ISP which is the intense supervision program AKA house arrest. My best educated guess is that he is hoping if one is denied he will get granted the other.  How do I feel about it?  I am PISSED THE FUCK OFF!!!!   He was assigned to 3 years in jail.  Apparently the time he has already served in jail is OK for him to apply for these programs so soon.   He has barely been in jail for just over 2 months and is still sitting in the NJ State prison sorting facility and hasn’t even been sorted to a state prison yet!  Oh and while he is there he continues to stalk one of his last victims in Vermont who states he calls her about 10 times a day from jail.  I thought this was impossible but apparently, you can barter for phone time by trading favors and goods to other inmates.  How this is allowed is beyond me.  I have told this victim to change her phone number, to refile for a restraining order, to file harassment charges in her jurisdiction and then file a complaint to the jail once she does that.  I have tried to follow up with her, but have received no reply.  I don’t know if she is possibly still under his spell, unable to really break from him, if she just doesn’t want to talk to me or if he has ceased the calls hopefully giving up on her.  God knows if there are others between the girl in Vermont and another girl somewhere else.  I am not ever fully sure.  I sent off multiple victim letters all against him receiving ISP as well as a timeline of his convictions, his victims and his crimes that weren’t prosecuted spanning the last 30 years.  I spoke to the parole board and had a 2 hour long interview with them and was pleasantly surprised that their questions really geared towards Jordan’s NEGATIVE aspects!   I had a LOT of information and have also passed onto them the same letters sent to the ISP people as well as the timeline to show that he is a HUGE risk to let back out into the community.  Not only that but I need more time to reestablish myself to where he can’t find me.  In the months that he has been jailed, I traded in my car for a new one and am planning on purchasing a new home.  I want a William Jordan free life.  I don’t want to look around my house and see projects he did, see places that we were, memories with my children……   I want a fresh start for all of us and where that takes us, I am not sure yet but have narrowed it down to a few communities that are safe, friendly, cost effective and great for the kids.  I want to be granted to get my feet settled enough from the immense turmoil this man put my life into to start over where memories don’t evade every facet.  I have to wait a month to hear from either ISP or the parole board, but I am hoping that it goes in my favor and then he cannot apply again for one year.  Not that I would EVER let him attempt to get out without a fight and once he does get out, let it be known that he will not be able to hide in the shadows and continue to con women.  He will have to atone for 30 years of broken hearts, children he never raised, monies stolen, lives torn apart, families askew.  He can’t just get out and live under the enabling wing of his parents.  Oh no.  It’s not going to happen if I have to take out a billboard with his name and face and crimes on it on a major highway.   I will keep educating the public about this man for as long as HE lives.  He is, after all, considerably older than me. I am starting to believe his parents should be put away for enabling his crimes after all these years.  He would talk to one wife on the phone and then talk to the other wife on the phone, asking both about their kids.  When Mary Turner Thompson had her first child by William Jordan, his parents actually CONGRATULATED her on having their first grandchild despite the fact that he had already fathered 6 before hers!!!!   I believe that they receive some sort of windfall of his deception.  Many victims have talked to them in the past and I nearly confronted his father after the truth came out when I had an outing with another victim who happens to socialize somewhere where his dad does as well.  He saw us together and the change in his whole demeanor was fabulous.   Score one for the Jordan Victims.

Other than being pissed off at the justice system, I have just been trying to live life day to day.  I took my daughter to New York weekend for a lavish girl’s weekend away and tried to get as many things off her “to do ” list as possible.  Lunch at Alice’s Tea Room, the Empire State Building, The Museum of Natural History.  We stayed in Time’s Square so we were all over there too.  Found a little bakery that had macarons which she loves, so we got a variety of pastries.  Went to Dylan’s Candy Bar and got a bunch of old favorites for me, candy dots for my son and she got her own bag of yummies.  Of course we caved and got a box of Bertie Bot’s Every Flavored beans from the Harry Potter movie.  Blech!!!   We tried grass, vomit, earwax, rotten egg (we gagged on that one), earthworm and others.  I think we spit all out.  Totally gross, but we did it for the experience.  Yeah, I paid $75 dollars for a breakfast buffet in our hotel, but it’s memories that last a lifetime.  It’s not about things bought, it’s about the memories that one has as they grow.  I know I have fond memories of day trips with my grandparents.  Of being at my parent’s diner and making new concoctions in the kitchen.  Lots of boredom, though, but we were together.  I spend the day at Six Flags with my son today.  I was so proud of him!!!  He went on a lot of new rides that he had never been on before, some of them he wanted to go on multiple times!  While I try to do things as a family, I know that they need to have their one on one time so that they can feel special, feel important for a day and have my total undivided attention.  I love that spring has FINALLY arrived to the northeast.  I hope that we have seen the last of sub-freezing temperatures and snow.  The flowering trees are in bloom, bulbs are blooming, the air is fresh, the grass is green again.  I just love it.  I wish I could take April to early June off of work and just be outdoors.

Slowly working on my base tan and as usual, working on a diet.  I feel like 80% of society is on a diet at any given time.Why can’t we just love the bodies we are in?  Thin, fat, average, bottom heavy, top heavy, double chin, sunken features, whatever it is, I wish that we could just love the bodies that we’re in.  I LOVE Lane Bryant’s new #ImNoAngel campaign which shows plus sized women in their lingerie (which I love) with fat, rolls and beauty abundant.  Feeling confident in my skin has never been my strong suit.  One day…..  I have been trying to immense myself in yoga.  The studio that I went to had an art and yoga day.  It was great!  Combined my 2 favorite things and I am finding yoga to be very cathartic.  One of the mantras that I take away nearly every session is to let go of the things that do not serve me.  This means the drama and stress over this case.  I am working on letting go, but it’s so damned hard.  At least with the ISP and parole on my heels and knowing that he could get out in as little as 2 months.  But in the short term, I take those mantras and make it the intention of my practice.  Let go, breathe.  Focus on the poses.  Always learning.  Improving. It’s ok to stumble once in a while as long as you keep trying…..   My studio had an art and yoga session and this was my creation!!!

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I did a photo shoot and an interview for South Jersey Magazine to print next month, I believe.  Some of the photos came out phenomenal.  I am still really shy with photographers and their direction.  They wanted fierce, strong, accomplished.  In retrospect, I should have given them more poses.  It’s a learning lesson.  Here is a photo of me prior to starting:

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Well below are some photos of my life in the past few weeks.  I hope you enjoy them.  🙂   Until next time….

My kid’s Easter Baskets and my Easter Orchids – my favorite flowers!

Me feeding a giraffe some sweet potato sticks at our local Six Flags.  Very strange but lovely experience!

My new spring Origami Owl locket.  Totally me.  Free like the butterflies, beautiful flowers which I love and a little sparkle thrown in as well as a reminder to love life!